Topic for Discussion, 05/09/2019

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Anonymous: Gm ur excellency Some female friend bi shared her story give me that she doesn’t know what to do
Eใ€ฝPiRe๐Ÿ‡ต๐Ÿ‡ธ: You can send it to me
Anonymous: I met this guy from the same town but the guy lives at abroad(USA). He takes very good care for me.
He told her that he is interested in her even though he has a wedded wife and a kid in America.
But the guy added that he Will divorce the wife all because the lady don’t respect him and that she(wife) has been able to make a project in her(wife) home town without informing him meanwhile he took her(wife) there and looked for a work for her(wife) too.
In fact, we have had sex on different occasions.
I and my mum went to one pastor in very Far place and the pastor told me to leave the guy because he(pastor) can see her(wife) holding a cutlass behind me and weeping. He always calls my dad that he(dad) shd take very good care of me coz he wants to marry me and take me there.
Since then I have decided not to answer his call again. but I still love him.
What should I doโ“

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Topic for Discussion, 04/09/2019

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Anonymous: Hi, Please I have a story to share.

Empire: Thank you for opening up to us. If you wouldn’t mind, share with us and we will post it in the group for us to discuss.

Anonymous: hmm it’s this guy who when I came to school he was the first guy who proposed to me but I didn’t accept his proposal due to some reasons I can’t share with you. We became close friends more like brother and sister even though I knew he has feelings for me but I didn’t bother and maintained the friendship status between us. I got a boyfriend on campus and felt I could tell him but something told me not to do it because it might hurt him.
One day he came to visit me which I didn’t expect because my guy was around. He met my guy with me lying on my bed after some romantic moves๐Ÿ™ˆ. This my friend jokingly made fun of the scene and left with the saying he would see me later on campus. My guy asked who he was and I told him we are just good friends.
I didn’t know he was hurt seeing us๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฟโ€โ™‚ I called him if we could meet and talk about something. We met on campus and I told him that was my boyfriend and he said oh OK that’s fine and advised me to be good as a friend will do. We didn’t spend more than 10min and he left with some strange excuse. I felt he was hurt but anytime we meet he would be laughing and acting like he is not hurt hmmm. I didn’t like him hiding his feelings from me tho because it makes me feel bad.
Somewhere last semester I caught my boyfriend having sex with another girl in his room๐Ÿ’”๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ I felt betrayed and disappointed, I cried to this my friend and I told him what I saw ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฟโ€โ™‚ Could you imagine he calmed me down and said it’s nothing so I shouldn’t be crying over some cheap boy who doesn’t know what he wants. I was sad but this my friend has been there for me all this while which I didn’t know how to thank him for everything he’s done for me. Before vacation, I forced myself on him and had sex with him๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™ˆ I am now in love with this my friend to the extent I can’t go a day without talking to him. I feel loved by him with his actions and all that.
Last week he posted some girl in my class on his status, I got jealous and asked what’s the girl doing on his status and that he should remove the picture only to get the heartbreaking story of my entire life๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿ˜ญ
He is dating her, he told me that girl has been his girlfriend since but because I was available for such conversations he didn’t know how to tell me and that he is sorry about it. I feel so used and broken.

I am planning on approaching my course mate to warn him about us ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฟโ€โ™‚

I love this guy, I can’t lose him so please help me.

Empire: Hmmmmmm it is well my dear.

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Topic for Discussion, 03/09/2019

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Anonymous: Hi Empire I know you but I think you don’t know me. I want you to post this so you guys help me out.
Empire: Oh Ok Thank you for opening up to us, I will do just that for you. I am hoping we meet soon on campus.

Anonymous: Sure bro.
I am dating this girl er, I know sometimes I cheat on her but char I love her so much and never wish to lose her anyway. She has been helping me out with a lot of things including my fees. I sometimes wonder how she raises those cash for the things she dey do give me. I don’t ask her and will never think about asking her.
Last semester, I planned on surprising her with a three-day vacation at Akosombo before we all leave for the house after doing vira on campus. I did all the arrangements and everything went as I planned it, I booked a hotel called the continental hotel if you’ve heard about it before.
Empire I did all these things oo, could you imagine two days before vira closing day, I called and informed her about what I’ve arranged for us since I feel we’ve all gone through a stressful semester, all she said was she can’t make it and her mum said she should come and do something for her. Yawa apae, I can’t go for my money so o decided to go with one friend of mine we dey vibe more time on campus. The very day we reach Akosombo, I saw my girlfriend with three of her friends dropping out of a Tundra ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฟโ€โ™‚ I wished I could cry now. After they got out from the car, another Camry too came and some guys too drop, come see how they were hugging and kissing each other๐Ÿ˜ญ
My friend was even crying and said we should leave, I called my girlfriend, she looked at the phone and drop it back in her bag.
I felt very bad and down but I let go and moved on. Me den my guy took a car and went home at Accra.

I never spoke of it or asked her anything because I knew in my heart it’s over between us so I moved on without saying a word. She called that day I saw her but I never bothered picking her call or reply to her text.
She called my mum and asked if I was OK because she’s been calling and I don’t pick up or reply to her text. I didn’t want my mom to know anything so I said I had a problem with my phone so I will call her later. I did just that and acted everything was fine and normal.
We have been talking since but I’ve broken up with her long-time which she has no idea about.
Yesterday she called asking when I will come to school and that she misses me and all that. I agreed to her will to report same day she is coming to school just to make her feel we are cool.

My problem now is, should I tell her it’s over with us or continue to be acting normal and be taking advantage of her, advice my friend gave me. I don’t want to be a bad person but I feel like listening to my friend.
Please, you guys should help me.

Empire: wow wow hmm I will post it tomorrow OK.

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Topic for Discussion, 02/09/2019

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Am a level 200 student of KTU. I have dated for 1yr and in the beginning I never knew my guy was still sticking with his ex-girlfriend and suddenly he told me that he haven’t tell his ex that they have quit but he told me that he has done a lot for the girl so it is hard for him to do that so he told me they are not in touch again but a week ago the guy called me and tell me that his ex is pregnant and she has given birth but now am the one he wants to be with and he really loves me, so it was a mistake so it won’t happen again and the girl just tell him that if he miss behaving she can do anything to the child so now I want you guys to help me out.
Because now I won’t quit the relationship.

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Topic for Discussion, 01/09/2019

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Champ me than my girl dey er, she shows me every chat of guys chatting her and most of them want to date her others wanting to have sex with her and all those that guarantee me that sheโ€™s faithful? Can I trust a girl like that, she sometimes fake break up pranks and stuff.

Recently she asked me to add her to mine WhatsApp groups which I didnโ€™t want to buy due to her insisting I added her and the guys in there worry her a lot almost half of the guys worry her and she keeps sending me screenshots of their chats and stuffs like I donโ€™t even know what to do now

All he wants to say is;
He is dating this lady who shows to him every chat she has with other guys who propose to her. And the reason is just to let the guy trust her. She tells him all the guys who want to have sex with her.

Just recently she insisted her boyfriend add her to all the groups he is in so that she takes part in whatever goes on. The guy did that and the outcome is not pleasing to him because he witnesses about 70% of the guys in the group worrying her to the extent of chatting her privately.

She sometimes fake breakups with him which bothers him a lot.

His problem now is
1. He doesn’t know if he should trust this his girlfriend and continue with the relationship or let go and move on.

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Topic for Discussion, 31/08/2019

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Please don’t mention my name.๐Ÿ™๐Ÿฟ

I am a level 300 student studying accounting. Life on campus from the beginning was very tough because I was facing some challenges which were beyond my control.
I met this guy in town who showed interest in me and decided to go out with me. I told him earlier I wasn’t ready for any relationship but later I gave in and we started dating. He will never touch me even if I try to make him do so, all he kept telling me was I should concentrate on my studies and the right time will come for that. He was living alone in a two-bedroom apartment which I never expected such a young guy would even want to have such an apartment. He wanted me to move in with him because I wasn’t feeling comfortable at my hostel. I packed out and moved in with him.
This guy is treating me like a princess, I will come back from lectures and he will be in the kitchen preparing food for us. I love him so much and I think he loves me too.

Everything was moving on fine with us until last month when he invited me to come to Koforidua since I was home at Accra with my parents. I got back to Koforidua and all he wanted to say was he loves me so much and he just wanted to say it to my face, I knew he missed me so I felt okay with it and I prepared some food for him and for the first time we had sex.๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฟโ€โ™‚
Kay was happy and I felt so complete with him but when I was leaving to Accra, I met this guy who sat beside me and I was doing was just staring at him. He noticed and started a conversation with me, I don’t know where this is coming from, I am more attracted to this new guy than Kay. This new guy will call me every morning, text me after we finish talking on the phone. I am getting more attached to this guy than Kay. Recently this new guy came to visit me and told my parents he is interested in me and would love to marry me right after school. My mum is happy about this because my dad did the same and she feels it’s a blessing in our family. My parents are happy with this guy and they’ve been taking even if I’m not around.

The problem here is, I didn’t tell my parents about Kay and Kay hasn’t thought of visiting me at Accra ๐Ÿคฆ๐Ÿฟโ€โ™‚
I’m confused here and I don’t know what to do.

Should I quit with Kay or Quit with the new guy. I love both of them and I don’t know what to do.

Please help me
Pls analyze the thing very well